When we set about teaching our daughters independence while at the same time keeping our relative sanity, we decided to give them options. Now please understand, we were at least smart about it. We would creatively come up with three options knowing full well that we couldn’t lose. No matter which they picked, we could easily live with the choice. Now all these years later we can see that it worked. My daughter Bailey and her husband John, are practicing the same technique with our grandson Jackson. Here in lies the story.
The other day, while visiting their house, John and I were attempting to watch the Packer game. I say attempting because Jackson had decided to not watch the game and instead to get us involved in his own game.
Scene one, Jackson enters the room and asks in his 2 1/2 year old style, “can Jackson play tablet?” After an explanation by his dad that he had already had plenty of tablet time, Jackson comes back with “then Jackson reads daddy’s favorite book?” Strike two as John explains that he is trying to watch the game and he will read the book later. Wait for it, Jackson is ready to prove the lesson and win the game. Without so much as a deep sigh, Jackson reaches over dad’s lap and as he grabs it, says “then Jackson gets the nuk”. Point, set, match, you’ve all been had by your own game. And he’s not even 3.
As I explained to John that we had just been schooled, it became clear to me that Jackson is one sharp little guy. Of course I am his Opa and couldn’t possibly think anything less. But then he did figure out the game; give them three choices, all of which are wins and you can’t lose.
So a little advice for those who will be the influences in their grandchild’s life, remind them of this wisdom and urge them to always give themselves options. Options that can’t lose and that will only lead to success.
It’s all about one’s options. Nice play Jackson.